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Words of wisdom: just drop it with Darcy Lubow

By on September 9, 2013
letting go

I learn so much from spending time with my goddess nieces. I see with new eyes every time I am around them. I learn so much about how to live fully from and with them. Soon to be five years old, my niece Isis is the epitome of vibrant aliveness. She takes her tasks very seriously, determined to try new things and take the lead. With the end of summer heat gracing us this week in Northern California, watering is primary on Isis’ to dos. Hose in hand, I watched as she took pride in quenching the thirst of parched plants all by herself. Before long, mud started pouring from the strawberry-clad garden patch. First just a little mud was something that intrigued and delighted her. She was seeing the results of her actions and her power! Then the mud stream continued, growing in speed and depth. She was not so delighted with this turn of events. What was fun and precise, watering the plants and seeing the stream come down the driveway, had gotten uncomfortable and out of control, aka: muddy and messy.

Shrieking and crying, she now wanted this to end. “Make it stop!” she pleaded with chaotic fervor.

Over the bellowing, the so real in the moment dramatic reacting, I say once, twice, three times “just let go!”From my perspective, I could see that she still had control. Letting go was the key to stopping the stress.

When she was ready and able to hear me and try something different, she does. Releasing her grip, the hose drops. Then the mud slide halts. Next, her expression changes as the revelation sinks in. All she had to do was let go. She had the key the entire time. When it was time to let go, she knew; the mud told her. Recalling how and when to relinquish control came with gentle alliance, this time from auntie DiDi’s shout over the screeching. Just dropping it, literally letting go of control, brought desirable results. Chaos stopped, equilibrium returned, clarity came. Lesson: Hold on until it is time to let go. The hose will be there tomorrow and she knows where to find it, how to pick it up, turn it on, use it, let go, turn it off, move on.

Simple, right? Yes and in the moment, when elements are in full force and emotions raised, seeing the solution can be difficult.

Where in your life, inside or out, are you holding on tight?

Where are emotions in high gear, tensions raised, control gripped close?

How do you know when the time is right to let go (thoughts, feelings, sensations, urges, intuitive guidance?)

Letting go leaves room for solution to enter in; if you want to grab on again, the chance will be there in one form or another.

When the time is right, the signs are pointing to try something different, to let go and let life take over for now, why not try it out?

Holding on when the signs are saying to let go can increase mess and stress. What if the solution to whatever is tense in you and your life right now is the let go just a little?

Here’s to releasing the grip and letting solution slide in!

 

In the Flow,

Darcy

 

DarcyLubowHeadshotDarcy Lubow is a natural guide. She helps lead people through the dark forests of the mind to a place of serenity. Darcy is a coach, a SoulCollage(TM) facilitator, a motivational speaker and a Masters in Counseling Psychology candidate. She lives with her beloved dog, Duffy, in Northern California.  Darcy feels most alive when she is creating, loving, learning and laughing. She fills her life with love: practicing yoga, taking photographs and walking down new streets in the “same old neighborhoods”. www.darcylubow.com

 

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