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What To Do When Things Suck.

By on December 13, 2014
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Written by Danielle LaPorte

When you’re in a painful place you’ll try to climb the walls to get away from it. You want it over with. But there are some things you need to do first.

Here what to do when things suck.

1. When you’re feeling far from your soul zone and something shitty is happening … fully accept it. I know, I know. Believe me, I know. This could sound naïvely flaky and downright impossible. It usually is. And yet! This counsel is at the heart of most Eastern mysticism. Don’t deny what’s real—face it. Don’t resist the moment—merge into it so that you can fully experience the truth of what’s happening.   And divinely enough, if you can be with the pain or negativity rather than pushing it away, it tends to dissolve faster so that you can move on.

2. When you’re not feeling the way you want, you can say this: “I’m really looking forward to feeling . . . ” Even if you’re totally steamed or really discouraged, just uttering positive, future-focused words can create a shift.

3. First, of course, you need to look your negative feelings in the face—out of respect.   It’s not productive to go straight from the sucky circumstance and mindlessly into the positive thoughts. Feel how much it sucks and then choose a brighter thought form. You can also use this phrase in almost any bind: “I’m clear that I want to feel . . . ” It’s incredibly grounding, and it also works well when conveying to other people what you want from a situation—especially in an intimate relationship. Stating how you want to feel helps you steer clear of criticism and complaining about yourself or other people.

4. When things don’t go the way you want them to, you can say to yourself, “Well, at least I’m even clearer about how I want to feel now.” Or perhaps all you can eke out is, “Maybe I’ll be grateful for this someday.” That’s a step in the right direction.

– Excerpted from The 2015 Desire Map Day Planner (one of my favourite things I’ve ever made).

danielleDanielle LaPorte is the creator of The Desire Map: A Guide To Creating Goals With Soul, author of the bestseller, The Fire Starter Sessions (with Random House/Crown), and co-creator of Your Big Beautiful Book Plan. An inspirational speaker, poet, former think tank exec and business strategist, she writes weekly at DanielleLaPorte.com, where over a million visitors have gone for her straight-up advice — a site that’s been deemed “the best place online for kick-ass spirituality,” and was named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes.

You can also find Danielle on Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram and of course, Twitter @daniellelaporte. The Huffington Post included her Twitter feed in their list “12 of The Wisest Twitter Accounts Worth Following.”

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