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The power of NO with Colette Baron-Reid

By on September 9, 2013
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One thing I was not taught in school was that I had the right to say NO. My parents didn’t teach me that either, as a matter of fact I was punished for saying NO most of the time.

As I got older I became more aware that this was truly a two-letter word with tons of magic and great power. It took me a long time to be able to say it without the accompanying hand- sweating, chest-constricting “OMG something bad was about to happen” anxiety that could knock me down for days.

So perhaps a Back-to-School special lesson for us all is to practice this word with more fervor?

The day before school started I would do a special clutter cleaning of my drawers, closet and desk at home in my room.

Today I’m going through my personal list of what I’m going to discard and say NO to in order that I am a more effective authentic human being. NO will leave room for the magic of NEW, that could change everything, make things better, even if we have to go to the edge a few times before we muster the courage to leap into the uncertainty of that experience. NO will push us, and NEW will give us wings.

So let’s make a list of NO and the NEW that could come after!

Yay it’s Show & Tell!

I’ll go first.

I say…

NO to People Pleasing – which will give me a sense of independence and integrity. It will lead to a huge reduction in fear, and possibly make me change who I associate with and how I relate to them. (oooo…I think this is a topic all its own!)

NO to Saying Yes when I want to say NO– which will lead to being more grounded, more sure of myself and truthful in spite of having no control over the consequences.

NO to Self Pity – which will lead to a new sense of personal accountability and seeing the silver linings in the clouds.

NO to Fear of Failure – which will give me a new sense of adventure and ART for its own sake. Without some failure I won’t get to Fabulosity!

NO to Conformity– which will give me a new sense of being my own unique self to co-create new things, giving myself permission to revel in the heresy of free thinking to be ME, defying the limitations of labels and offering New creative offerings to my non-conformist tribe! (I love this one)

NO to Resentment– so I can give and receive freedom through forgiveness.

NO to Financial Insecurity– so I can just get on with making my business and life ART and do what I do for the sake of inspiration rather than making money. New opportunities always come from the magic of Inspiration.

These NO’s have been recent and long term for me.

One more NO I should mention was me saying NO to my choice of unfaithful, emotionally-unavailable men. Once I figured out I was the common denominator in all of my complaints I said NO when any guy had that familiar sparkling ooooooo soulmate sense of YES I KNOW YOU and I won’t repeat you. Couldn’t trust myself.

Saying NO to my past patterns with men landed me my AWESOME, gorgeous, faithful, brilliant husband Marc who was so unfamiliar to me I took the risk with faith and BAM. The universe knew better than me… co-create, co-create, co-create.

Isn’t NO awesome? Just by saying NO to a state of mind, an old pattern, unhealthy attitudes, NEW and better things are possible. Our co-creative partnership gets activated.

OK now it’s your turn.

What are you going to say NO to?

What do you already say NO to and what NEW experience comes out of it to make you a better, more effective co-creator?

Until next time I send you more love than is humanly possible.

Why?

Because I can.

Colette!

 

Colette Baron Reid 3/2649Colette Baron-Reid is an intuitive counsellor and founder of the Master Intuitive Coach Institute, as well as the In-Vizion Process for coaching. Her latest book, “Weight Loss For People Who Feel Too Much”  is available on Amazon and in book stores everywhere!  colettebaronreid.com

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