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The Dress that Cracked Opened Deeper Vulnerability

By on October 7, 2015
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Written by Kris Britton

Hey Beautiful,

This post might not make any sense to you, because its strange.  I’m talking about how a tight white dress taught me life lessons.

I know, I’m out there at times, but trust me…I think this will help you too.

kris2Yesterday at 10am, Ryan {my man} and I went to the mall as soon as they opened to pick out outfits for an upcoming photoshoot we’re doing for the marketing materials for an upcoming program that is being launched.

The most beautiful thing about working for yourself is that you can get to the mall with the old folks as soon as the doors open and have the stores all to yourself!  It was amazing!

Like I said, we’re dressing for marketing material, so I was looking for a certain feel and the outfits I chose would represent this brand for our program.  I pictured white!

White dress, white pants, crisp, clean, fresh….like spring and freedom.

As I walked throug the store a few things caught my eye…pulling me back to my safe zone:  black.  As a coach in change, I nudged myself to switch it up a bit and go right to the girliest dresses I could find.  Picked my sizes and went to the changing room.

Dress after dress, I noticed a theme that they were quite flowy, which is also a comfort thing for me.  When I wear tight, I feel restricted and very OUT there for everyone to see.  Yup, I realized that wearing tighter, more out there outfits forces me to be vulnerable.  Clearly, I’m still working on this within myself and in certain areas.

I have lived in the trap of judging myself and my body.

However, I have gotten a lot better from where I used to be with this belief system, I can see that I am not my body….but a tight white dress?  That, I am still getting used to.  Haha.

There was this one dress I chose that was not flowy or “forgiving”.  This dress, totally out of my comfort zone, I went with it.  I’d admire snug dresses on other women all over Instagram because I love the look of a formfitting outfit, showing the beauty of a radiant body….but why did I have this “thing” about showing my body?

I tried this white lace dress on and could barely breathe.

But I felt so good in it.

I felt like a woman.

I quickly snapped pics for Ryan to show him that I actually tried on a tight dress and for the first time, I wasn’t concerned if I sucked in or not…I felt free!

I struggled to get the dress off, half my makeup gone, but it was worth it for the power I felt within.  Literally, I was proud of myself.

So out of the change room I went to find Ryan waiting for me and as we lined up to pay, I showed him the pics of this eyeopening dress I had tried on and he loved it!

The one thing I love so much about Ry is his way of making me feel really great in my skin, always saying nice things and encourages me to be in love with myself!

I learned through this white lace dress that because I didn’t think these pictures were “going” anywhere but for Ryan to see, I placed NO pressure on myself to suck in, worry, or doubt myself or the way I held myself in a tight dress.  Ryan took this photo and posted it on Facebook {oh Ry….}…expressing how he thought I looked beautiful and the comments starting rolling in, I could feel all I’ve learned about my ego and self-love really allows me to live a life of freedom within.  I stopped caring what people were saying.

I unapologetically appreciated myself and could feel from negative self talk and also praise, which I crave, but never take well.  Hello ego.

I felt extremely vulnerable in this dress, all over Facebook with thousands to see.  My clients saw, my team saw.  I mean, this is just a dress, I know..but to me it represented growth and love.  I am a denim and T-shirt girl, rarely swaying from my lulu’s or Rag & Bone Jeans….but I did it and I wanted to do it.  I practiced non-jugement for the rest of the day and I felt FREE!

The biggest tip if you’re ready to stop the judgement and embrace your vulnerability is to know that all the fear you feel about what others will think of you, or being “out” there for everyone to see, is just an illusion and something that you have created.  As easily as you created this belief, you can create an empowering way of living, where you stand strongly in your life and body and trust that you life off of what feels good to you.  Heck, if a tight dress doesn’t make you feel good, don’t push yourself.  Go off of what feels right.

No, I did not buy the dress.  I couldn’t get it on or off and could barely breathe…even in the larger size, so I have no idea how women wear this dress, but dang was it cute and now I’m proud to say I’m on a mission for the perfect feeling hot dress!  I’m excited to open up my way of living to something new, I know I might sound crazy, but this was a big shopping trip for me.

I did get a few cute outfits that you’ll see in new pictures and branding that is coming out!!

Here’s to rocking your vulnerability and being YOU without judgement!

//  Comment Below!
+ Do you feel comfortable in outfits out of your comfort zone?
+ Are you ready to try something new?
xxoo
Kris

 

krisKris Britton is the visionary behind iheartpurpose.com and her health & wellness blog iheartwellness.com, she is a Certified Life & Success Coach and Successful Home Based Entrepreneur.

Kris is known as a messenger for Financial Freedom.  She provides step by step strategies that transform women’s businesses and lives.  Kris’ coaching tools help women unlock their purpose and self worth, taking their business from zero to a 6 figure income quickly.

Loving what you do and making money doing it is so important!  Kris believes that we are here to share our purpose with the world while working less and getting paid more, having time freedom and financial freedom to live a life full of fun and adventure.

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