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Sweet Surrender

By on January 24, 2015
Kate Moulton, Healer & Coach

Written by Kat Moulton

Last summer I led a free 14 day “Little Acts of Courage Challenge”.  The basis of it was to ask yourself each day the question, inspired by one of my mentors (Crystal Andrus Morissette), “What would Courage have me do?”

I did the challenge too. My own reflection and that of some of the participants got me thinking a lot about action. “DO” is an action step.  And yes, most times, doing something means taking action.

But what if you are unsure?  Not clear? Or not trusting?

This can seems like a tricky grey area.  But really it does not have to be.

Sometimes the answer is simply to SURRENDER.

Have you considered that “Courage” is not telling you to do something in an action sort of way?

Maybe, just maybe it is urging you to let go of something.

Release it.  Let it go.  Stop. Get clarity around a situation so that when it is time to take the action step, you will be prepared to step out in ways that you can trust are for your highest good.  Take a step back.

For example, earlier this year know I was pushing to get my new website out.  Engaging on social media and all that, because that’s what I felt I needed to do.  But the tug at my heart was to step back.

I felt the urge to be in nature.  For me that looked like walk my dog more, work in the garden, play outside.  When I am doing those things I feel more grounded, more connected to my inner knowing, more in touch with the divine.

I trusted the urge and postponed the launch of my new website for two weeks.  I felt calmer and more creative!  My whole family felt less stressed and we all were more peaceful. A guess what? My new website still happened.

TRUST.  A loaded word for some of us.

If you are anything like me, trusting has not always been easy.  Not trusting myself, other people or in life in general.  Shifting this pattern has been one of my life lessons.  If I am not mindful, I can allow myself to slip back into not trusting.

Many of my clients, like I have had issues with trusting themselves, other people or God/The Universe or in anything.

How do we trust when we have been hurt?

How do we shift out of fear into a place of faith and love?

How do we trust when the pain is deep, overwhelming and frustrating?

How do we just surrender?

If trusting has been a challenge for you, share in the comments below and let us know how you’ve moved through it.

Here are my 3 steps to easing into surrender.

1. INTENTION

Set your intention using conscious language, this sets up your frame of mind. 

Mindset is the key to shifting anything.

Here are a few examples:

“I choose to release old hurts that bind me to fear.”

“I choose to surrender and wait to take action until I create clarity for myself.”

“I choose to take responsibility for myself and trust that I am safe and loved.”

You decide how you want to be or feel.  Write it down.  State your intention aloud. Allow yourself to sink into the feeling of how you want to be.

2.  PRACTICE

For most of us retraining our thoughts is not an overnight process. 

Actively commit to a daily routine of self-care, new ways of thinking and setting boundaries.

Create a morning ritual for yourself to set the energy for your day.

Add prayer, meditation, affirmations, exercise, inspirational reading, movement or combination something that makes you feel good, confident and inspired.

Practice trusting each day.  If trust is a big issue for you, start with the little things.  Ask yourself, what do I trust?  See what shows up and start there.

3.  SUPPORT

Here’s the deal, you don’t have to be a lone wolf.

Nor do you have to remain in situations that belittle you, make you feel less than or unsafe. As a coach you all know I favor getting support when it is needed.

Reach out.

When we feel connected and supported we tend to have a more positive outlook and feel good about selves, no matter what the circumstances surrounding us.

Support comes in many forms~ here are just a few~

  • Join a support group.
  • Hire a therapist, coach or mentor.
  • Lean into something greater than yourself ~ God, Spirit, The Divine and ask for support, allow yourself to trust what you shows up.
  • Find someone who has that spark, that faith, that confidence or state of being that you trust and admire.  Get curious as to what worked for them.  Reach out to them if it feels right.
  • Engage with a trusted spiritual teacher or community.  This could be a church leader, your yoga teacher or any other guide or mentor that you feel drawn to.

These three simple steps can help us feel at more at peace with the practice of surrender.  We can let go of the past or current circumstance and choose to not have them define us or our future.

Practice, practice, practice. 

Why the practice?

Though it is simple, it may not always feel comfortable.  And that’s a good thing…It’s okay.  Such discomfort means you are growing.  Like anything else, with practice we get more comfortable with it and it becomes easier.

It took me over 40 years to understand that rituals can usher in a more peaceful way of being.  Create a small ritual for yourself around surrendering.  Already have a ritual that works for you?  Share in the comments below, it just may be the spark someone needs.

When we do finally surrender and accept things as they are, not as we wish them to be, we feel more at ease and are given the clarity we seek.  We begin to find peace.

Surrender instills peace.  Surrender helps us define what our next action step is.

Practicing surrender can begin to feel so sweet.

 

katmoultonHeadShot4Kat Moulton is a Mompreneur, Courage Coach + Desire Map Facilitator.  She is dedicated to Support Women Unlock their Courage, Own their Desires, Show Up with Confidence + Focus. Creator of the “7 Pillars to Awaken Your Courage”, Kat guides women to access their own inner wisdom and trust themselves completely.  She has been featured in Inspired Coach Magazine and contributes to Simply Woman Magazine. Connect with Kat at www.katmoulton.com and Facebook, Twitter, + Instagram.

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