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Soul Mates & Soul Supporters: Both bring so much to our lives!

By on May 23, 2013
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Soul mate or soul supporter: both bring so much to our lives.

By Crystal Andrus

Imagine this: You enter a room and are inexplicably drawn to a man you’ve never met. As you begin to chat with him, you experience a burst of energy or exhilaration you can’t describe. You’re simply connected—synchronicity has brought the two of you together, and synergy is at work.

Synergy is when the sum of two things working together totals more than the sum of their individual parts. It most often happens when you meet someone and instantly bring out the best in each other.

Synergistic relationships happen every day, in all walks of life. From corporations merging to successful self-help programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous, world-champion sports teams, Grammy award– winning musical groups, or even two people falling in love . . . the list is endless.

Although finding someone with whom you’ll have absolute synergy is rare (because both people must be highly calibrating and resonating at extreme levels of self-acceptance and love), it’s incredible when it does happen. This connection between two perfectly aligned souls is often referred to as finding your “soul mate” or “kindred spirit.” (But don’t get caught up in the term soul mate, as it is so overused. It’s more important you simply understand that this ultimate synergistic union transpires on all levels between two people—sexually, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and intellectually.)

When we’ve found our soul mate, we’re more powerful, confident, energized, enlightened, sexy, fearless, and beautiful with them than without. They make us better people, and we make them better, too. Our combined power equals far more than the sum of our individual parts. This doesn’t mean we won’t sometimes disagree or that our personalities won’t be different, but a soul mate relationship will always survive the test of time.

A soul mate union can’t be enforced or manipulated.

It simply is. And fighting it is futile.

While we’ve all experienced synergistic relationships that might not be soul mate unions, they are incredibly meaningful and empowering. These people are our “soul supporters,” and when we’re with them, we feel an instant connectedness—a knowingness—and there’s no mistaking it. And although we can’t always understand our connection, we simply feel it. Our souls have attracted them into our lives for a reason—most likely, it’s time for us to climb a ladder, heal an aspect of our consciousness, or make a shift in our awareness.

Soul supporters come in both sexes and in all races and religions, and they’re necessary for our evolution. They may nurture, inspire, teach, guide, stimulate, calm, or even challenge us at times; and they might be around for a month or a lifetime—the duration is irrelevant. Sometimes people come along at a time when we’re struggling for clarity, and during our interaction with them, the answers we’ve been searching for suddenly become so apparent. We’re excited, even overjoyed.

Synchronicity brought these individuals into our lives at exactly the right moment—as the saying “When the student is ready, the teacher appears” alludes to—but our sudden clarity can often become clouded with fear and doubt. Afraid of losing them, we hold on tighter and try to make them be what we want them to be; yet true love needs no direction or control. Our soul understands this, knowing that once the healing has happened or our souls have evolved, these people may stay close by or drift off in another direction, and it has nothing to do with love.

As long as there’s growth and learning, a relationship will sustain itself, yet all too often we start making plans about this person or relationship. Our ego needs to make sense of everything, to label everyone in its attempt to control, and we find ourselves trying to possess our soul supporters and define ourselves by the relationship.

The mind-made self can never understand the true reason you’re attracted to someone, and very often you’ll end up confusing it with something different from what it was intended to be. Ask yourself if you’ve ever pursued someone as a lover when perhaps he was meant to be a business partner or convinced a lover to go into business with you when he was never meant to share anything more than your heart. And then when the relationship doesn’t work out the way you thought it should, you blame that person for not measuring up, when perhaps it was you who tried to control it in the first place. How many times have you held on to a relationship, job, friend, or lover longer than you should have, and then ended up resenting it, becoming angry and hurt when it’s over?

Remind yourself that soul supporters are so for life, and always embrace those who once brought you a spark. Let them go when it’s time, but know that you selected everyone in your life for a reason—the lesson is to understand why. Your outer world is always a healing tool to look at what’s going on in your inner world.

Soul supporters won’t necessarily be the people who nod their heads and smile at everything you say and do . . . some of your greatest teachers, lovers, friends, and associates will actually be those who challenge you the most. They arrived in divine timing and will teach you what you are meant to learn. Maybe soul supporters are here to “get us ready” for our soul mate?

Truth be told, perhaps everlasting love—the “soul mate kind”—only happens once we’ve become the woman we’re meant to be. Then, and only then will we know when we’re with the person we are meant to be with!

 

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