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Letting go. Crystal Andrus on Surrendering.

By on July 8, 2013
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In our attempt to understand ourselves and the world around us, we often lose sight of the things that matter most.

By Crystal Andrus.

 

We are so hard on ourselves, our mates, parents, children and even friends.

How many times do you find yourself angry with someone for letting you down? Perhaps you are intolerant of the friend that cancelled plans at the last minute or at your husband for forgetting a dinner date. We are disappointed at our parents when they forget to call us on our birthday or at our sibling that drove two hours to visit then says something that hurts our feelings. We mistakenly focus on people’s actions rather than their intentions.

We are determined to hold people to their promises in our attempt to control. “You offered! Now you’d better come through or I’ll be angry!”

Things can’t and won’t always go our way. Many people have wonderful hearts, filled with goodness, but for reasons of their own they aren’t always able to do what they promised. People will sometimes hurt us, not because they don’t care about us, but because that is how life goes. It’s the intention rather than the outcome that matters most. We must discard expectations and not punish ourselves by taking it personally when someone lets us down. If you know deep down that your mother or father, sibling, friend, mate or even just an acquaintance have genuine intentions, accept that they can only give or do what they are able to. some people have the ability or insight to recognize when they have let someone down, while others just don’t get it.

It’s not about us.

We all discover life’s lessons at different times and in different ways along our individual journeys. Some of us learn quickly and easily, while others fight the Laws of the Universe. Some have an innate ability to understand the soul of a person, while others define one’s spirit by their worldly actions. We all make mistakes. We all struggle for love and validation. We are all more alike than we realize – searching for understanding, meaning and purpose. No two people can be at the same place at the same time in their life’s journey. We must relinquish judgement, self-righteousness and manipulation. Once we begin to live with sincere and pure intentions we are able to live fearlessly.

I pray that as you walk your path, you continue to accept, honour and most importantly love yourself. Remember that life will only give you what you ask of it!

In love and light,

Crystal

P.S. For more from my book, Simply…Woman, visit my book section on the new, refreshed CrystalAndrus.com! I’m so excited for you to see the new site!

340006_10150311350648122_335684808_oCrystal Andrus is a bestselling author, international speaker, women’s advocate, host of “The Crystal Andrus Show” on CBS Radio, and Founder of “The S.W.A.T. Institute (Simply Woman Accredited Trainer)” ~ the world’s #1 online Personal Empowerment Certification Coaching School, exclusively for women. She can be reached at www.crystalandrus.com or www.swatinstitute.com.

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