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How To Love Yourself More

By on October 30, 2016
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By Arielle Ford

Learning to love myself was a painful and slow process.

I grew up awkward, introverted, and with a very loud, self-critical voice in my head.

More than 25 years ago I had the good fortune to be introduced to Louise Hay who took me through her life-changing “mirror work” process.

I remember sitting with her as she held a mirror in front of my face and told me to look into my own eyes and make a series of positive statements to myself, including “I love you.”  It was hard, because I really felt like I was lying to myself.  Somehow I got through the process and then, as a daily practice, I did mirror work on my own, and learned to understand that not only did I really love myself, but that I was also loveable!

All of your self-talk, the dialogue in your head, is a stream of affirmations. These affirmations are messages to your subconscious that are establishing habitual ways of thinking and behaving. Positive affirmations plant healing thoughts and ideas that support you in developing self-confidence and self-esteem, and creating peace of mind and inner joy.

If you want to change your life, then it’s necessary to retrain your thinking and speaking into positive patterns, and mirror work, with its positive affirmations, opens the door. In essence, you are saying to your subconscious mind, “I am taking responsibility. I am aware that there is something I can do to change.”

When you pay attention to your thoughts, you can begin to eliminate the ones creating experiences you do not want in your life.

Twice a day, stand in front of a mirror, look into your eyes, and repeat positive affirmations ten times. For instance, for self love you might say: “I want to like you. I want to really learn to love you. Let’s go for it and really have some fun.”

Take another deep breath and say: “I’m learning to really like you. I’m learning to really love you.”

If doubts or fears or negative thoughts come up, just recognize them for what they are – old limiting beliefs that want to stay around. Say to them gently: “Out, I no longer need you.” And then repeat your positive affirmations again.

That which we constantly affirm becomes true for us.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle

 

arieArielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is the author of the international bestseller THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest the Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction.

The Soulmate Secret has led thousands of men and women, around the world, to attract their ideal life parter. Arielle lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband, Brian Hilliard. Please find her at www.facebook.com/soulmatesecret  and www.soulmatesecret.com

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