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How to help the world help you

By on June 10, 2014
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By Kate Northrup

No one is ever going to read your mind. At least not really.There are things that matter. There are hills worth dying on. There are things we really, really want.But what happens is we doubt our wants.We ask one time and we get a no, so we never ask again. We avoid disappointment.

WHEN WE SPEND OUR LIVES AVOIDING DISAPPOINTMENT, THOUGH, WE ALSO MISS OUT ON SATISFACTION.

We second-guess our desires. We question whether or not we deserve what we want. We don’t know how we’re going to get it, so we stop wanting it. We don’t want to put someone out so we don’t ask. We begin to resent. We think that they should know what we want.

BUT HERE’S THE TRUTH:

twitter_standingNO ONE WILL EVER KNOW WHAT YOU REALLY WANT UNLESS YOU TELL THEM.

If you don’t tell people what you want, they can’t give it to you.If you want to be pleased, tell people how they can please you.If you want something, ask for it. 

Be specific.

Be courageous.

Sometimes you’ll be disappointed when you ask, but less often than if you don’t ask.No doesn’t hurt as bad as you may think. Because there’s always another way. Or something else. Or someone else.But yes feels really good. And so does helping someone make you happy.If you want something, it’s your job to say so.Help the people in your life win with you. 
Become easy to be pleased by being clear about what pleases you.Support others in making you happy by telling them how.

THEY WILL THANK YOU. YOU WILL THANK THEM. THE WORLD WILL BE A BETTER PLACE.

Do you find it easy to ask for what you want? Do you find it difficult? Why or why not?

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