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Four alternative ways to help you love yourself more.

By on June 15, 2018
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By Pam Del Franco

1. Stay connected to the world around you.

Going within for contemplation is one thing, but when you want to disengage from others in an attempt to avoid what you’re going through, it’s quite another. Perhaps you feel like I sometimes do, “I’m better off alone while I sort this out”, but that can be a way of saying “I’m not worth someone else’s time and attention”. We all crave some form of recognition because we are social beings at our core, so even if you can’t face being with someone in person right now, watching them online, or reading a book about other women going through similar experiences, can help you understand how healing connecting with another person can be.

2. Being authentic in your interactions with others.

Being authentic doesn’t have to mean you “tell-all” or have to speak with “no holding back”; it just means that you’re expressing from that place where you can speak, write, or create art, music or movement that lets you express what you’re feeling, then you’re less likely to feel the need to defend yourself – because authenticity stems from your truth. Just like writing this article comes from my perspective, you’ll form your own as you read it and that will be part of your truth.

3. Being honest with yourself and others.

Honesty is different from being authentic in the way that ‘honestly’ telling someone “that outfit makes your butt look bigger” knowing it will hurt her to hear that, isn’t the same as being authentic and gently suggesting another outfit may look nicer, or another color might work better. You’re still expressing your honest opinion that the outfit isn’t working, while still remaining true to yourself.

4. Honoring your feelings at all times.

It’s easy to dismiss what we’re feeling as not important because, like I do at times, I feel someone else is worse off than me so why should I complain. When I notice that I’m beginning to do this, I make an effort to recognize that, regardless of how they compare to others, my feelings deserve my full, unwavering attention at best, or at least my ‘note to self’ of a promise to give them my attention when I can. I make a few quick notes in my journal or I dictate into my iPhone so that I have a visual reminder to revisit those feelings before they fester too long. If you can do that, you’ll notice that they have waited patiently to be admired for what they are – a part of you.

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Screen-Shot-2018-03-28-at-11.14.56-AM-245x300Pam Del Franco, S.S.W, Spiritual Medium/Counsellor, Contributing Author to the best-selling book, Simply…Woman stories from 30 magnificent women who have risen against the odds.

Pam is also a member of OACCPP (The Association of Registered Psychotherapists & Mental Health Professionals)
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