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Forgiveness isn't earned: a little reminder from Dyan Diamond

By on June 23, 2013
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Don’t Forgive Because They Deserve It

By Dyan Diamond.

As long as you hold onto any resentments, hurts or heavy dense feelings about something that someone has done, you do not have peace. Holding onto resentment over what has happened serves you no good purpose. You are simply allowing the person who you believe has hurt you in some way to continue to hurt you in that very same way.

The hurt continues on until you forgive.

When you forgive, you get out of the cycle of the hurt. You move beyond the situation and it no longer has anything to do with you. You let yourself off the hook. Whatever was done to you – you simply forget it. It really doesn’t matter if the other person deserves your forgiveness or not. The only way to peace is to forgive and to forget.

Please do not get me wrong here, I’m not saying let them do it over and over. That is a part of self love – we do not allow others to walk on us – we are nobody’s door mats. But the beginning of self love can be forgiveness. Yes it happened. Yes it was bad. But yes, we can forget it, not let it even become part of our story, and continue on our loving path. Forgive and let those old stories go away now. It’s okay to let them go. It’s okay to forgive, forget and make our own stories.

 

Dyan Diamond has decades of formal and informal research and study in all fields related to psychology, including 30 years of work experience in the field as a life coach/counselor and as an advocate for others. An artist, writer, adventurer, music lover, cook and avid nature enthusiast, Dyan is the author of “Inspired, An Adventure in Self-Awareness,” an interactive workbook journal and “Summoned Angels.” Contact Dyan Diamond for more information or visit dyandiamond.net.

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