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Follow Your Bliss

By on May 28, 2019
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By Crystal Andrus Morissette

“What’s my purpose?”

Isn’t this the “million-dollar” question that so many of us ask?

We live in an ever-expanding, infinite universe. We’re made of the same stardust that the planets are made of. It stands to reason that we are a microcosm of the whole and our purpose here on Earth is for each of us to live our lives in full expansion; to trust, try, and believe in our dreams; to go for it all; and live a larger-than-life experience.

Our purpose is to expand—not just extend—our lives! And the good news is that since we are “infinite,” we can relax about the “extension” part.

When you live your greatest life, not only does your life expand, collective consciousness expands.

Sadly, too few of us were taught “I can trust life. I can trust myself. I can follow my bliss. I can dream—big!”

Maybe you learned that life is hard, that what goes up must come down, and that bliss is a fleeting moment that passes as quickly as a beautiful sunset.

Some of us are afraid that we have to enjoy our success while it lasts because it is limited and short-lived. Others believe that we have to force, demand, manipulate, or exhaust ourselves in the pursuit of happiness; that we’ll be rewarded only if we work hard enough for someone else to notice.

Perhaps you’ve come to believe that if you can just persevere long enough, good things will be waiting on the other side of suffering. For some people, this means living a life of misery in order to get into heaven. For others, it means taking the safe path with plan B without ever testing out plan A. And for still others, it means listening to an internal voice that says, “Play it safe. Play it small. Don’t take any leaps. Get back from the edge!”

In this mind-set, you struggle with sadness, discomfort, suffering, sorrow, guilt, shame, regret, blame, anger, illnesses, exhaustion, and/or addictions, convinced that it is part and parcel to discovering happiness. It is not true. Happiness won’t arrive at the end of an unhappy life.

Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage, is one of the world’s leading experts on human potential. His work reveals:

“More than a decade of groundbreaking research in the fields of positive psychology and neuroscience has proven in no uncertain terms that the relationship between success and happiness works the other way around. Thanks to this cutting-edge science, we now know that happiness is the precursor to success, not merely the result. . . . .Waiting to be happy limits our brain’s potential for success, whereas cultivating positive brains makes us more motivated, efficient, resilient, creative, and productive, which drives performance upward.”

Who knew all this time, through all our struggles, that our purpose was to seek happiness first and that the rest would follow?

Things won’t make you happy for the long term. Other people won’t make you happy long term, and neither will money. Even achievements won’t make you happy long term. Sure, I understand the relief money provides, but it won’t make you a happier person. Once the bills are paid, you’ll be back to your old, familiar Emotional Age—your Dominant Emotional Archetype; something I often refer to as your ‘Mother Energy, Daughter Energy, or Woman Energy’.

Give a spoiled child a new toy, and you’ll understand immediately. More toys don’t make the child a happier person; they may actually add fuel to her internal anger. Most children get overwhelmed with too much stuff. They don’t need more things; kids need more love, acceptance, affection, compassion, tenderness, fun, empathy, joy, understanding, peaceful communication, and security—all the same things that we adults need! Kids need to know they matter. They need to learn and witness healthy boundary setting. They need to feel safe and supported enough to dream big and then pursue those big dreams.

When this happens, children have a healthy sense of self-esteem, self-awareness, self-assertiveness, self-acceptance, self-confidence, self-love, and a level of joy. They know that no matter what, they can take care of themselves in the world.

Everything in our outer world is a reflection of our inner world—it reflects our level of trust, self-advocacy, and empowerment. When we are contracting, our life feels heavy and stressful, and we feel confused about our purpose. We don’t feel safe, protected, and valuable. Life is hard, and work is exhausting. Money is scarce, clients are limited, and we’re all in one big race—a competition of sorts—to reach the summit! (And, it’s lonely at the top.)

When we are expansive, we feel hopeful, focused, and secure. We recognize our choices. We take calculated risks that, most often, pay off. We look forward to getting up each morning, excited about our possibilities. We know there is more than enough to go around. We are energized and motivated about our career and the work ahead of us.

Does this mean that every single day of our lives is perfect and shiny?

No, but more often than not, we feel content and at peace with things; we have the ability to look within to find our joy rather than allowing outside influences to steal our thunder, whether it’s the weather, traffic, our mother-in-law, or our ex. We’ve taken control of our emotions. We’re following our own inner light. We’ve set healthy boundaries with those who try to intrude on our dreams, desires, and purpose. We are expansive, empowered, unafraid!

 

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Crystal Andrus Morissette, Founder

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From life as a homeless teen to coaching A-List celebrities, from having abs of steel and the Miss Galaxy to weighing over 200 pounds after having babies, Emotional Age and Communication Expert Crystal Andrus Morissette is a worldwide leader in the field of self-discovery and personal transformation. A media darling, she has been featured numerous times on Oprah.com, the New York Post, Fox TV, the Daily Mail, CBS Radio, CTV, CityTV, Global TV, Slice TV, the Globe and Mail, and the Toronto Star. Crystal is the founder of the S.W.A.T. Institute (Simply Woman Accredited Trainer), an empowerment coach certification exclusively for women that she created with fellow female visionaries Louise Hay, Marianne Williamson, Dr Christiane Northrup, Colette Baron-Reid, and Sandra Anne Taylor among others. Established in 2009, the S.W.A.T. Institute is now in over 30 countries.

Crystal is the author of five best-selling books, including her latest release entitled, “Simply…Woman: Stories from 30 magnificent women who have risen against the odds!” She is also certified in nutrition, sports medicine, and yoga.

Crystal’s message of resilience, strength, and inner power has allowed her to grace the stage with speakers such as Dr. Phil, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Naomi Judd, Suze Orman, Marianne Williamson, Louise Hay, Dr. Christiane Northrup, Dr. Joan Borysenko, Debbie Ford, Sarah Ferguson—Duchess of York, and many more. Crystal has coached women from all walks of life including A-list celebrities, best-selling authors, scientists, doctors, dentists, and lawyers to stay-at-home moms and struggling teens. Her passion is to get down in the trenches and help people become the (s)heroes of their own lives.

www.crystalandrusmorissette.com | www.swatinstitute.com | www.SimplyWomanPublishing.com

 

 

 

 

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