Crystal Andrus: It's time to rewrite your story!

By simply...woman! on August 6, 2013

All of your stories are based on the things you believe— not the truth, mind you. (Now you know why it wasn’t about the diets you’ve tried or opportunities that turned sour. It was about you!)

If you believe you are smart, capable, and able to make large amounts of money, your bank account will reveal that, too. The only way to know what you believe is to look at your present circumstances without judgment. It will tell you everything . . . believe it or not!

 

Do you know what your story has been?

Do you know what your motivators and discouragers are? Do you know what you hide behind or convince others of so they’ll give you what you want? Do you know what you’d do anything to avoid and everything to obtain? Do you know what you believe about yourself, your body, intelligence, capabilities, strength, sexiness, kindness, worthiness, initiative, and sustainability? Do you know what you believe about men, women, parents, children, animals, love, money, sex, God, and power?

You may think you do . . . you may think you don’t.

I’m going to tell you that you do know. Your life will reflect everything you believe, telling you word for word the autobiography you’ve been writing. It will reveal what you believe about yourself, along with all of your other beliefs.

If you believe in love, your life will mirror back to you a person who is in love. You may say that you want love, are ready for love, and even that you “love” love; but I’ll tell you that if you aren’t in love right now, no matter what you think, you don’t believe! Your mind doesn’t believe you’re ready . . . yet. Perhaps your mind doesn’t trust love. And now part of your story is that you’re “someone who isn’t good when it comes to love.”

If you, on the other hand, have faith that you’re able to lose weight, look great, and be healthy, when you look into the mirror, you’ll see a person who’s fit and attractive, and who exercises and eats well. You may say that you want to lose weight, but if you aren’t fit, something in your mind doesn’t believe you can do it or doesn’t want you to do it. Maybe it has seen “thin and beautiful” as being dangerous or selfish. All the wanting in the world won’t change your circumstances. You may be able to create change, but you won’t be able to sustain it! Your story is probably more along the lines of “losing weight is harder for me” (due to some reason) or “all the women in my family struggle with their weight—it’s genetic!”

 

How is your story working for you?

The only way to change your life (or parts of your life) is to change your mind about certain things. If you change your story, you change what you believe. Everyone has heard the saying “I’ll believe it when I see it.” However, you’ll never “see” it unless you first start believing it. You need to reprogram your mind—your software—to believe it. This is the next crucial step in creating an empowered life.

Your mind functions like the hard drive on your computer. When you’ve downloaded the latest software (including antivirus protection), deleted the stored temporary files and cookies, and defragmented your system, it will run effectively and efficiently. But if you’ve downloaded corrupt files, stored temporary files and cookies, and failed to optimize your system, your perfectly good computer won’t work properly. No matter what you try, if you don’t fix the glitches in the operating system, it will continue to run ineffectively.

Imagine how many people are unsuccessfully trying to create magnificent lives that have easily fixable “hiccups” in their hard drives! Remember that once you understand what’s going on in your mind, you can address the problems and begin to clean them up in the same way you’d fix your computer.

Here’s the hitch: Your mind won’t allow you to reprogram your beliefs if it doesn’t think that your new beliefs are safe and beneficial. You mind controls your actions. It’s like an automatic keyboard that’s typing “your story” without you even consciously realizing it! It will direct you to avoid anything it perceives as painful (based on your history) and will urge you to pursue anything it senses as advantageous (again, based on the past.) It would have to be safe to create and sustain success. It would have to feel acceptable to reinvent yourself

So ask yourself:

Do I really feel safe in coming out?

Do I really believe that everyone will love me if I change?

Will it be okay if I do it differently?

Will I be accepted?

Will I be too embarrassed or ashamed to admit to my mistakes?

Will they be okay if I succeed?

It’s time to clean out the old beliefs and rewrite your story, letting go of the idea of what you wished you were or wished they were, of what he should have done, or what she promised to do. They didn’t, you aren’t, they aren’t, it isn’t—oh, well . . . let’s get on with it!

It is what it is! Don’t beat yourself up. Just clean it up and begin reinventing!

 

For more steps to becoming Simply…Empowered! in every area of your life, this and my other Hayhouse books are available at my website, www.crystalandrus.com.

In love and light,

Crystal

 

Crystal Andrus is a bestselling author, international speaker, women’s advocate, host of “Empowerment Class” and “The Crystal Andrus Show” on CBS Radio, and Founder of “The S.W.A.T. Institute (Simply Woman Accredited Trainer)” ~ the world’s #1 online Personal Empowerment Certification Coaching School, exclusively for women. She can be reached at www.crystalandrus.com or www.swatinstitute.com.

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