BALANCE: WHAT IT IS AND HOW TO LIVE IT

In looking more closely at this all elusive state, I discovered some of the ways I have defined balance.

If balance isn’t what I thought, what does it even look like? How will I know when I’m living it? Am I just waiting for someone else to tell me I have arrived at it?

Asking the question “what is balance to me?” while weaving in the tool of curiosity brought even more questions. Question, question, doubt, frustration, question, comparison… and then I had a revelation.

Sitting on one of those almost too fun to exercise with bouncy balls of all places, I noticed how when I got still and found my center, to remain there, upright and erect, I had to make continuous small adjustments to my legs, back, abs, and arms. A lot was being asked of me: my breath and focus were required as I kept these systems working together to keep me “balanced.” This working to stay centered did not feel stressful or agitating, it did ask me to focus and stay committed. “This was it, balance!” poured from my lips, and then I tipped off and met the mat. I had met balance for a moment. My physic al body was not completely still though it might have appeared so from the outside. This moment on the yoga mat remains with me. A simple exercise with profound teachings.

Balance is not what I had previously thought. In an instant, my definition broadened and so had my experience of balance. No longer stagnant and fixed, I was free to explore balance in new terms. Stay curious and the answers will come.

Such is the way balance shows up in my day to day life. Accept the imbalance, ask meaningful questions and assess the situation from the inside out. Bring to awareness one area of your world that feels a bit off kilter. Get in touch with the situation or relationship and apply these questions to it:

• How do I know I am out of balance here?

• What is telling me I am not centered? (It might be your own intuition, a thought, or someone else’s opinion.)

• If there were one small choice to make now that will lead me to equilibrium, what might it be?

• If I were balanced already, I would be _________.

• How will I know when I am in balance in this situation?

• When I strike a balance here, I will feel _________.

• Now turn it into an affirmation: I am balanced and feeling ________!
  

Feel into these statements and practice how it will be to actually strike the balanced life you so desire. In celebrating the process of finding our own balance, new insights become available that were hidden from view when we were in resistance mode.

The idea that balance has to look a certain way will keep it in our future, never in the here and now. And who wants to wait for balance? I know I don’t. Some equilibrium now and ongoingly sounds wonderful. As long as we stay in the “if…then” and “when…then,” our power to choose the reality we live remains in the hands of others: other people, institutions, and circumstances.

My definition of balance is one that continues to grow, change and reveal itself in new ways. While I still wonder how balanced my life actually is, when I ponder on the balance thing there is a peaceful presence that definitely hasn’t always been there. Putting to practice the tools of acceptance, curiosity, assessment and application (trying things out) have changed my relationship with balance into something rich, menaingful and rewarding. Balance is something unique to each of us, undefinable by anyone else. Continuing to identify what balance means to me has become fun as I’ve taken the pressure off and given myself a break for not being perfect. Both of these are daily spiritual practices. I might not be perfect, I definitely tumble, and there are areas of my life that are beautifully in balance right now. These are worth celebrating! And learning from for that matter. Where we are in balance can direct us to find balance and live it in the areas that are ready for a newfound centeredness. Take a moment and learn from your successes. Practically applying what has worked for us before is a simple and efficient way to attain our goals.

• I know I am in balance in this area because _______________________________________.
• I feel ________________________.
• I see ________________________.
• I sense ________________________.
• I think _________________________.
• I am receiving ______________________.
• I am giving ______________________.

Ways to communicate with that balance thing and strike it where you want it include: make small adjustments, look for what’s already working, practice adaptability, flexibility, patience, letting go of assumptions, have trust in your process, take the lens off other people’s balance or lack thereof, shake the constantly available opinions of others, following your intuition, ask those you admire how they strike the balance they do.

Explore these concepts and apply them to your day to day when you want to find balance again. Remember, balance, like us, are continusouly growing and changing. Allow the balance of yesterday to transform into something equally satifying.

Remember, there is no one way to live in balance. Freedom comes from knowing what works for someone else might not work for you. We are all in this together and only you can discover that glorious formula for balanced living perfectly tailored for you! Question those assumptions, explore your world, stay curious, get on the bouncy ball, be gentle with yourself and find your way to balance as it is showing up today.

Ready, Set, Go, I believe in you!