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8 Signs That You’re Addicted to Busyness

By on November 3, 2014
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Written by Kate Northrup

It’s recently come to my attention that I have a habit, or perhaps even an addiction, of proving my worth through constant activity.

This habit has been on my radar for some time, but only vaguely.

Within the last six months, however, my awareness has gone from vague to obvious.

BUT BEFORE I DIVULGE MY OWN PATH TO REALIZATION, I’M CURIOUS TO KNOW HOW MANY OF THESE STATEMENTS DESCRIBE YOU?

As much as you crave white space on your calendar it also gives you anxiety. You notice yourself checking your phone obsessively throughout the day, particularly when you are tired, overwhelmed, or anxious.

More than once, a close friend or family member has said something about your compulsion to engage with your phone or computer and how that affects your relationship. When someone suggests that you relax and do nothing, you say to yourself or out loud, “What the heck does that even mean? What do people do when they do nothing?”

When you do find yourself doing nothing, you feel of guilty that you aren’t being productive. You mentally tally the number of productive hours you’ve had at the end of the day and judge how you feel about yourself by how full your day was. You find yourself “complaining” about how busy you are while simultaneously feeling proud of having so much on your plate that you can barely breathe.

You say that you’re too busy to meditate, move your body, nap, hang out with your girlfriends, make love, prepare healthy food for yourself, or go on dates (with yourself, your spouse, or new people).

If 3 or more of the above statements describe you, you’re addicted to busyness.

For me this addiction started long ago. Before I was even 10 years old, I used to map out my play dates and make sure I had something scheduled every day after school. I bought my first Day-Timer calendar when I was 14. In college, I was incredibly proud of the fact that I was taking more than the required course load, performing with a dance company and regularly in musicals, and starting my first business.

This is all to say that if you’re addicted to busyness, I feel you. Big time.

OBSESSED WITH BUSY:

We live in a culture that celebrates being busy. We are obsessed with getting it all done and fitting it all in.

Our tendency to gorge ourselves on food is mirrored by our tendency to gorge ourselves on activity.

My wise uncle Phil said the following to me after he had a very vivid dream about me and my breakneck schedule:

“YOU’RE GOING TO HAVE TO LEARN TO STOP VALIDATING YOUR EXISTENCE THROUGH ACTION.”

That one hit me like a punch in the gut.

I’m outing myself here because what I’ve found is:

THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE IS NOT SO INDIVIDUAL. IF IT’S HAPPENING TO ME IT’S LIKELY HAPPENING TO YOU.

Here’s the thing:

twitter_standingCONSTANT DOING MAKES US MISS THE MOMENT. (TWEET IT)

How many meaningful conversations in the car with my husband have I not had because I was checking my email for the twentieth time that day?

How many of breaths have become shallow from being caught in the spin of constant activity?

How many precious moments of stillness have I missed because I fear what might come up during the pause?

I’m practicing doing less. I’m sharing this practice with you because I bet you want to do less to feel and be more in your life too.

In the next installment of this series I’ll share specific ways I’m finding space to do less in my life. I’m really looking forward to hearing your ways too.

FOR NOW, LET’S BOTH BE AWARE TOGETHER, SHALL WE?

We’re ambitious. That’s awesome.

We’re capable. Go us.

We know how to make sh*t happen. No doubt.

And our worth no longer needs to be proven through action.

Let us know our worth in simply being.

Let us know we’re enough because we are.

Let us begin to let down the burden of busy.

 

kate1Kate Northrup is a professional freedom seeker and creative entrepreneur. She created financial freedom for herself at the age of 28 through building a team of more than 1,000 wellness entrepreneurs in the network marketing industry. Her philosophy is that if you free yourself financially you can be fully present to your purpose on the planet. Her first book, Money: A Love Story with Hay House is NOW AVAILABLE! She continues to mentor entrepreneurs in creating financial freedom. Find out more and take her free quiz to find out what your relationship with money says about you at http://www.katenorthrup.com.

 

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